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Questions to Ask Before Hiring Your Collaborative Divorce Attorney
In my last post, I explored the idea of “doing no harm” as a collaborative divorce attorney. Some of the comments I received focused on what it means to be a collaborative professional, while others lamented the prevalence of lawyers who call themselves “collaborative” when their actions are anything but. If you are a client who…
Read MoreTo Do No Harm
The Hippocratic Oath, which reads in part: I will give no deadly medicine to any one if asked, nor suggest any such counsel, is often summarized by the phrase “Do no harm.” This simple yet powerful credo is an excellent approach for solving problems in many situations, including divorce. Contrary to the approach of traditional divorce…
Read MoreTips to Help Reduce Time and Costs When Negotiating Divorce Agreements
It is possible to make the divorce process more time- and cost-effective? When potential clients consult with me in connection with their divorce, one of the first questions they ask is, “How much do you expect this to cost?” and one of the second questions is, “How long do you expect this to take?” Time and…
Read MoreChanging Course (in your divorce)
If you’re in the middle of a litigated divorce and are unhappy with the way things are going, you can change course. You might have started the divorce process with the goal of ending the marriage quickly and feeling as financially secure as possible at the end. You might have hired the first attorney who came highly…
Read MoreThe Team Approach To Divorce
An article entitled The Team Approach to Divorce was published in the July 2013 issue of New York Family Law Monthly, an ALM publication. In the article, I explain how the professional-team approach works in the collaborative process and how attorneys who primarily litigate can use aspects of this approach to help settle their family law cases. Read an…
Read MoreMindfulness as a Tool for a Less Adversarial Divorce
Divorce can be an overwhelming experience. For most of us the days are full enough, yet divorcing couples are confronted with finding the time to fit in things they would not normally need to do, like meeting with attorneys and working on post-divorce budgets. I recently discovered an author named Jon Kabat-Zinn whose book Wherever You Go, There You…
Read MoreThe Road Map to Collaborative Divorce
The setting in which Family Law attorneys work is often not a courtroom, but a complicated landscape of their clients’ needs and emotions. Because many of these emotions are difficult to experience, it is natural that a divorcing couple might want the process to conclude quickly. But moving forward too quickly without sufficient understanding of each party’s true needs…
Read MoreHow to Protect the Family in the Face of Divorce
I help couples end their marriages without destroying their families. That’s not just a tagline on my website or part of my elevator speech; it’s the actual reason that I no longer use adversarial methods to help my clients who are divorcing or separating. An article in the New York Times that focused on Al and Tipper Gore…
Read MoreWhy the Team Approach to a New York Collaborative Divorce Makes Sense
When collaborative divorce was first developed, it was a process that involved two attorneys and their clients. The attorneys not only counseled and advised their clients about the law, but also about the financial and child-related issues that needed to be resolved. And they did their best to help with the emotional and communication issues that inevitably…
Read MoreMediation or Collaborative Divorce – What is the right process for New Yorkers?
Most of the clients who come to my office to discuss their divorce know that they do not want to go to court. Not only is it expensive and time consuming, but they do not want a judge to make personal decisions for them and their family. So, the clients know that they want to stay out…
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