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Posts Tagged ‘Collaborative Divorce’
Divorcing? Do You Want Your Attorney to be a Problem-Solver or a Troublemaker?
Discourage litigation. Persuade your neighbors to compromise whenever you can. Point out to them how the nominal winner is often a real loser—in fees, expenses, and waste of time. As a peacemaker the lawyer has a superior opportunity of being a good man. There will still be business enough. – Abraham Lincoln As a collaborative…
Read More7 Tips for Putting Children First in a Divorce
A child-centered divorce is a divorce where the parents keep the physical and emotional needs of their children as their primary concern. In a child-centered divorce, every decision the parents make is through that lens – How will this affect our children? What is important to our kids, now and in the future? Most parents…
Read MoreMediation or Collaborative Divorce: Which process is right for you?
When it comes to choosing an alternative to divorcing in court, both divorce mediation and collaborative divorce have their own unique advantages. Divorce Mediation Divorce mediation is a private and confidential method of non-adversarial divorce in which the participants advocate for their own needs and concerns without a lawyer present in the room. The mediator…
Read MoreCelebrity Couples are Becoming Role Models for Amicable Divorces
What looks like just another celebrity breakup might actually be instructive for any divorcing couple. Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner are going the way of Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin in choosing a non-adversarial way to divorce while living in the public eye. During her divorce, Paltrow made headlines for describing the process as “conscious…
Read MoreWill Your Divorce Be a War Story or a Peace Story?
As I picked up The New York State Bar Association Journal earlier in the month, the cover story intrigued me. It was called “More War Stories from the New York Courts.” It was about civil litigation cases that go on for years. The article didn’t discuss divorce, but that’s certainly what was on my mind as I…
Read MoreThe Choice Is Yours
Sometimes people in the middle of divorce litigation realize that the court system just isn’t working for them. Time is going by, the costs are piling up, and they seem further from resolution than ever. At this point, it may be time for them to look at an alternative process, such as mediation, but where…
Read MoreThe Important Role of Divorce Coaches
“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”– Maria Robinson As true as this quote may be, it’s not easy to think about re-writing your future when you’re in the process of divorcing. You want to put your marriage behind you, but removing yourself from…
Read MoreQuestions to Ask Before Hiring Your Collaborative Divorce Attorney
In my last post, I explored the idea of “doing no harm” as a collaborative divorce attorney. Some of the comments I received focused on what it means to be a collaborative professional, while others lamented the prevalence of lawyers who call themselves “collaborative” when their actions are anything but. If you are a client who…
Read MoreTo Do No Harm
The Hippocratic Oath, which reads in part: I will give no deadly medicine to any one if asked, nor suggest any such counsel, is often summarized by the phrase “Do no harm.” This simple yet powerful credo is an excellent approach for solving problems in many situations, including divorce. Contrary to the approach of traditional divorce…
Read MoreTips to Help Reduce Time and Costs When Negotiating Divorce Agreements
It is possible to make the divorce process more time- and cost-effective? When potential clients consult with me in connection with their divorce, one of the first questions they ask is, “How much do you expect this to cost?” and one of the second questions is, “How long do you expect this to take?” Time and…
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