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Financial Infidelity and Divorce: It’s Complicated
The legal, emotional and financial needs of couples divorcing due to “financial infidelity” are often complex. When many people hear that “infidelity” was the reason for a divorce, they automatically assume it has to do with sex. More and more often, however, I see that “infidelity” with money is the reason why marriages are ending. Where…
Read MoreConscious Coupling: Using Prenuptial Agreements to Build a Healthy Marriage
Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin have made the news lately with their “conscious uncoupling” – a new term for a mindful divorce that is an excellent example for separating couples to learn from. Like most people, I had never heard of this term until it was talked about in the media. As it turns out,…
Read MoreThe “Good Enough” Agreement
When a couple divorces, it is usually the case that neither party gets everything he or she wants. Understanding and accepting this fact before you start the divorce process can help make the process less costly – both financially and emotionally. One of the many things I have learned from my family law clients over the past…
Read MoreQuestions to Ask Before Hiring Your Collaborative Divorce Attorney
In my last post, I explored the idea of “doing no harm” as a collaborative divorce attorney. Some of the comments I received focused on what it means to be a collaborative professional, while others lamented the prevalence of lawyers who call themselves “collaborative” when their actions are anything but. If you are a client who…
Read MoreTo Do No Harm
The Hippocratic Oath, which reads in part: I will give no deadly medicine to any one if asked, nor suggest any such counsel, is often summarized by the phrase “Do no harm.” This simple yet powerful credo is an excellent approach for solving problems in many situations, including divorce. Contrary to the approach of traditional divorce…
Read MoreTips to Help Reduce Time and Costs When Negotiating Divorce Agreements
It is possible to make the divorce process more time- and cost-effective? When potential clients consult with me in connection with their divorce, one of the first questions they ask is, “How much do you expect this to cost?” and one of the second questions is, “How long do you expect this to take?” Time and…
Read MoreChanging Course (in your divorce)
If you’re in the middle of a litigated divorce and are unhappy with the way things are going, you can change course. You might have started the divorce process with the goal of ending the marriage quickly and feeling as financially secure as possible at the end. You might have hired the first attorney who came highly…
Read MoreThe Repercussions for Divorcing Women Who Have Opted Out of the Workforce
Lately, women are being encouraged to “Lean In”, which is the title of Sheryl Sandberg’s book that encourages women to take an active role in their career development. So I found it very interesting to read an article in the New York Times Magazine titled “The Opt-out Generation Wants Back In“. It not only spoke to me…
Read MoreThe Team Approach To Divorce
An article entitled The Team Approach to Divorce was published in the July 2013 issue of New York Family Law Monthly, an ALM publication. In the article, I explain how the professional-team approach works in the collaborative process and how attorneys who primarily litigate can use aspects of this approach to help settle their family law cases. Read an…
Read MoreHow to Have the Nastiest Divorce Possible
Note to readers: I’ve been wanting to write about how to avoid “nasty” divorces without all the gloom and doom that usually accompanies such a topic. And then it struck me: Use equal parts facts, sarcasm and humor! If you and your spouse have decided to end your marriage and you want to look back…
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